Do you know why the odds of becoming a huge success is so low?
Because it’s insanely tough. But at the same time, the changes you can
make in your life to exponentially increase the odds are actually very
simple. Simple, but not easy. It’s all in your mind. Are you ready to
make major changes in your life? Let’s get to it. Here are the 13
reasons why you will never be successful in life.
1. You push off responsibility
Accept full responsibility for every single thing that happens in your
life. Don’t blame others. Don’t blame circumstances. Don’t blame what
you lack. And definitely don’t blame your luck. You will always have
choices to make in every situation, and these choices will always have
consequences.
Take responsibility. Make the right choices, because
they will either steer you that bit closer to your goals, or away from
them. Success is nothing but a series of all the right choices you make.
If you want something, got get it yourself. You’re in charge. Period.
I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul. ~ William Ernest Henley
2. You procrastinate
Understand the cost of being a procrastinator. It is like a credit
card. You have a lot of fun while at it, but wait until you get the
bill. Procrastination is deadly.
I don’t care what your reason for
procrastinating is. The Law of Diminishing Intent states that if you
don’t take action soon after the idea strikes you and the emotion is
high, fairly soon the urgency starts to diminish. And the longer you
wait, the less likely you will ever get the job done.
Start off by
making the decision to declare war on your procrastination devil. By
just being aware that you need to be at an endless battle with this
devil, you are already ahead of the majority.
Procrastination is
one of the most common and deadliest of diseases and its toll on success
and happiness is heavy. ~ Wayne Gretzky
3. You are a perfectionist
Perfection does not exist. It is only a great excuse not to get
started. Do your best; strive to be good; strive to become better than
you were yesterday; but forget perfection. Because if your work truly
matters to you, you will never ever reach that state anyway.
And
stop waiting for the ideal moment or the ideal plan. It will never
happen. If it does, something is bound to go haywire along the way. You
just need to get started. And then again tomorrow. And again the day
after.
Your dreams will never come to fruition if you are preparing and waiting around. They will if you apply and take massive action.
Do
not wait; the time will never be ‘just right.’ Start where you stand,
and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better
tools will be found as you go along. ~ Napoleon Hill
4. You are afraid of criticism
If you are going to be achieving anything great, expect tons of
criticism and haters. Learn to handle them. Learn the kind of criticism
you should accept and the kind that you should discard. Not all
criticism is of use.
In any case, do not let the fear of criticism
stop you from doing what you have to do. You do not have to please
everyone. That’s a sure route to failure. This is your mission. This is
your life. Let’s do this.
To avoid criticism say nothing, do nothing, be nothing. ~ Aristotle
5. You are afraid of failure
Do things for success, but expect failure along the way. Failure is
absolutely necessary. Failure is a life lesson designed to bring out the
best in you. If you are too afraid to fail, then don’t start.
It’s
okay to have some fear, but don’t be too discouraged when you do fail.
Because it’s not about how many times or how big you fall, it’s about
how many times you’re willing to get up and try again. And I hope you
answered that with, “as many times as it takes.”
It is impossible
to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that
you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by
default. ~ J.K. Rowling
6. You are darn lazy
If you’re putting in the same amount of work as the people around you,
consider yourself lazy. It’s a competitive world, and if you want to
stand out at all, then prepare yourself mentally and work two times
harder than everyone else. If others work five hours, you work seven.
Work your butt off. It pays. And forget all your partying.
Formula for success: rise early, work hard, strike oil. ~ J. Paul Getty
7. You lack originality and creativity
You are already lazy. It’s not any better that you are doing the same
thing everyone else is doing. You need to be unique if you want to stand
out as well.
Be original and get those creative juices flowing.
Dare to be different from the crowd. You can get ideas and inspiration
from others. You can even copy to a certain extent. But in the end, be
your authentic and genuine self. People are dying to see the unique you,
and not another copycat.
Trusting your individual uniqueness challenges you to lay yourself open. ~ James Broughton
8. You play it solo
We humans were biologically designed to flourish together. Success does
not come by our self. There’s a reason why we like to say we “could not
have done it without you” in the Oscars Academy Awards. It’s true.
Don’t
be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Learn to genuinely connect
with others and work together. Support one another. Likewise, help and
offer value to others. You cannot expect to receive when you don’t give.
Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is a progress; working together is a success. ~ Henry Ford
9. You are ungrateful
Being grateful increases your level of happiness dramatically. You will
be much better equipped to face life’s challenges when your natural
state is full of joy, happiness, and gratitude. Happiness leads to
success, and not the other way round.
Start adopting an attitude
of gratitude and if need be, keep a gratitude journal. Look around as
you read this. I bet there’s at least one thing that would make life
very different for you if you lost it. And make no mistake, this is not a
chance for you to settle with what you have. Being grateful and
settling are two very different things.
Develop an attitude of
gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing
that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and
better than your current situation. ~ Brian Tracy
10. You fail to learn from your mistakes
Along the way, you’re going to make a ton of mistakes. Accept them with
humility. Those are some free life lessons. Approach every mistake you
make as a special learning experience sent to teach you something
valuable and necessary for your success in the future.
Einstein
says that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and
over again and expecting different results. Learn from your mistakes and
do not repeat them.
Learning from your mistakes is an essential
skill that enables you to develop the resilience to be a master of
change rather than a victim of change. ~ Brian Tracy
11. You don’t believe in yourself
“He who says he can and he who says he can’t are both usually right”
(Confucius). Drop all your self-limiting beliefs. If you want something
with a strong enough passion, you will find ways to make the impossible
happen. The only limits you ever set up for yourself are all in the
mind. Change them.
You are unstoppable. Dream big because you are
destined for greatness. Believe that you will be a big success. You
already have everything it takes to crush life. All you have to do right
now is succeed.
When your desires are strong enough, you will appear to possess superhuman powers to achieve. ~ Napoleon Hill
12. You lack consistency
Consistency is crucial to your success. Develop the habit of showing up
all the time, whether you feel like it or not. The pro doesn’t give
himself excuses. He just gets the work done. Short bursts of fiery
enthusiasm will not cut it.
Come up with a system for yourself and
make sure you stick with it. Deciding and succeeding to hit the gym
four times a week is far more superior than deciding to hit the gym
seven times a week and failing to execute three times. Yes, even when
the outcome is the same, because you are training your mind to be weak
by not doing what you say you will do. That weakness will rub off
negatively on other areas of your life.
Long-term consistency will always trump short-term intensity.
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. ~ Aristotle
13. You have stopped growing
Successful people understand that they need to sharpen their skills all
the time. They understand that once they stop, they will fall behind
the competition. They’ve made the decision early in the game to become
excellent and the top in their field.
The moment you stop growing
and learning is the moment you truly fail. That includes your personal
development and all other areas of your life. In fact, the moment you
decide your level of personal development is enough, that’s when you
become a failure of life.
Your level of success will seldom exceed your level of personal development. ~ Jim Rohn
I
don’t write articles just to entertain. My work on this planet is to
serve and inspire others. To inspire action. I’ve learned along the way
that if you truly want to succeed, you have to focus on one thing at a
time and master it. Don’t multitask. It is true that all 13 are
essential for your success, but you are setting yourself up for failure
if you try to master all 13 life changes simultaneously. Slow and steady
wins the race. Pick just one and focus all your energies on it. If I
were you, I’d choose consistency.
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